I was just charged in Fl with Battery against my husband
I was just charged in Perry Fl with Battery against my husband because he failed to tell the law officer "everything" that he had done over the past two years to lead up to the lashing out at him! I am a Christian lady;however, due to several mental, physcial, and emotionally abusive relationships I have unfortunately been in and the "conartists" I have dealt with, I have chosen in 2013 after 13 years of having an LPN licensure to file for disability due to the horrific anxiety and emotional trauma I was suffering from. My present husband and I met through his mother and father who were attending the same church that I was and they introduced us. I thought for sure he was finally the one for me! He had a stable job and home; however, he was totally lost!!! He had been involved in a relationship with a man and his wife and kids and lied about the entirety of it! I later found a picture of him and the woman on our home computer, completely out of innocence, and all he could say was he didn't care and wasn't ashamed of his past! He has been nothing but disrespectful and tried to make others believe that I am crazy and he is Mr. innocent! He treats me one way and "talks and acts totally different" toward other women on the phone and in public! He is a TOTAL Fake!!! However, I love him so what do I do? Today is our 2 yr wedding anniversary! Conseqently, now I am on 18 months probation with a Battery DV charge and have to take BIP courses when he should be the one taking them!!!!!!!!!!!JA: Because laws vary from place to place, can you tell me what state this is in?Customer: Yes Ma'am, Perry, Fl.JA: Have you talked to a lawyer yet?Customer: Yes Ma'am, my court appointed attorney was Richard Lavasseur. He told me that I could either take the plea bargain or it would be even worse if I took it to trial. However, I had an issue with the solicitor and the way she told me she could not speak to me, and I feel that she was only judging me by her own "biased" opinion!!!JA: Anything else you want the lawyer to know before I connect you?Customer: No Ma'am? Is this going to be a free consultation? I am just wondering since I took a plea bargain if I can appeal it?
On Saturday I went to a Halloween party at one of the places
On Saturday I went to a Halloween party at one of the places I do freelance work for as an Event Planner. At one point in the evening, a guy approaches me and offers to buy me a drink. I let him, and we sit down and chat for an hour. He tells me he works as a Finance Manager for wealthy people and celebrities. I had worked in the music industry as a Publicist for 11 years and worked with a lot of the same celebrities he works with. He shared stories with me about these celebrities; and they were stories a person would only know if they had a close relationship with that person. So I had no reason to doubt him at the time, and I found him to be a nice and interesting person.We left the bar, we were both pretty tipsy, so we grabbed a bit to eat, and went back to my place. I had no intention of hooking up with him, so I turned on a movie and fell asleep right away.The next morning, Sunday, I woke up around noon, and he asked if I wanted to grab lunch at the Hard Rock. I said fine, but I need to be home no later than 4pm b/c I have a ton of work to do.As I am driving us to the Hard Rock, he tells me that he's not a Finance Manager for wealthy people and celebrities, he's a professional gambler/card shark and he makes millions of dollars for himself and the wealthily people/ celebrities he refers to as his “clients”, and he shows me pictures on his phone of numerous celebrities holding fistfuls of money. He then tells me “I can go to the Hard Rock to eat, but he's going to gamble”. He then asks me for “money to gamble because he left his cash at the apartment he's renting” (he lives between NYC and Miami, or so he says)When he asks me for money, I tell him “NO I am flat broke, the only money I have in my bank account is to cover rent due on Nov 1st, and money that I owe other people who did some freelance work for me”. Which was $3000. He keeps insisting, so I tell him “I only make $1400/month, and any other income I have is based off of commission, and living in Miami, its been slow season, and I haven't made any money in 3 months. I am completely broke!!”He keeps asking and asking, and was persistent as hell. He told me he'd “pay me back within 30min, b/c as a “card counter”, he doesn't lose. He's a professional, and one of top 5 poker players in the world, so not to worry”. He said he would “give me an extra an $2000 for letting him borrow the money”. I tell him “NO” again.At this point he starts to get aggressive with me and he threatens me physically, and tells me he's “spent time in jail; he was convicted for 10 years but got out after an appeal and only served a 17-month sentence”. This made me feel extremely uncomfortable but more so than that, very afraid. So I agree to give him the money for fear of my safety.We go to the casino, and he tells me to “act cool, follow his lead, and to listen to everything he tells me to do. Since he's a “card counter”, what he is doing is not illegal, but its frowned down upon and if he wins a lot of money and I am acting suspicious, we would both get arrested”. I am confused and scared as hell, but I agree. I use my ATM card to withdraw the money. My card gets declined, so I call the bank and they release the funds.He tells me to “wait in the restaurant for 30min and NOT to leave or he'd track me down”. Of course I considered calling the cops at this point. But I was scared that if I got him in trouble, he'd find me and hurt me since he knew where I lived/worked. I also desperately needed my money back too, otherwise I'd be faced with an eviction notice.He comes back to the restaurant 30min later and tells me he “won $10K, and the cashiers were counting the chips, so he'd be right back with the money”. I've never been gambling in my life, so I didn't know if what he said was true or not, so I said “fine – get my money, I want to get out of here”. He then texts me that he “won $27K, then $40k”… Then I got a text saying he has “apprehended by security and they called the police for trespassing because he'd been banned from the Casino 23 times prior. . He said to stay where I was and to wait for further instructions”. So I did, scared to death I would get arrested too, as he mentioned earlier.He calls me an hour later, telling me that the cop who had “arrested” him was one of his clients and was going to drop him off at the mall so to meet him there. He corroborated that story by showing me a picture of him and a cop holding a handful of money. I told him “I couldn't pick him-up”, so he told me “he stole the spare keys from my apartment, and I would regret that decision.” He also said “I'd be stupid to call the cops because he has them under his thumb”. He said he “just wanted to give me my money and I wouldn't have to worry about seeing him ever again”. So I stupidly went to the mall.He gets in my car and tells me “all of his things were confiscated at the Casino and his lawyer has to pick them up in the morning since it was Sunday. He said Casino took his apt keys, wallet, money, everything and he needed to crash at my place, and if I wanted to see the money, I better do as he says”. He also said “if he got arrested, he would implicate me as an accessory”. I didn't know what to do so I start driving back towards Miami. At this point he reiterates that he's been kicked out of that Hard Rock Casino over 23 times and same thing has happened in Vegas over 50+ times and he is never allowed to go back there, but he goes all the time, and he shows me pictures on his phone of him wearing various different disguises to get himself into the casino. He shows me a picture off all the different passports, ID's, credit cards, etc. he uses, with different names and identities.In the car ride, he's acting very cool, calm and collected, like nothing happened. He promises me again that he'll to give me the money in the morning. Terrified and confused by his split personalities, I let him into my apartment. I tried to play cool and calm so he wouldn't harm me. I acted nice just to keep his temper at bay. I put a Taser and knife in my pocket and I'm thinking “ if I can just get through the night and get him out of my apartment, and hopefully get my money in the morning; this nightmare will be behind me”. I spend the rest of the night on my computer working trying to engage as little as possible. He continues to try and proposition me, kiss me, touch me, put his hands on me, pull me towards him, and he forces me on the bed; I start crying and begged him to leave me alone as I struggle out of his grip. I didn't sleep a wink that night, and at 8am I physically threw him out of my apartment.Around 3pm (Monday), I started to received very aggressive and degrading texts messages from him – saying he met with the lawyer and had my money, but he wasn't going to give it to me because of the way “I treated him and I ignored him all night like a stuck-up dumb bitch”.At this point, I am no longer in a stage of fear, and I can think clearly. I realize the money is gone for good, and I am relieved I am not harmed. I am furious with myself for letting things escalate the way they did…He ends up sending me over 100 text messages throughout the day/night, saying the most angry and offensive things, it was obvious that he was off his rocker. “Good luck with paying your bills you dumb whore. Haha, I took advantage of you because you ignored me. You're a cold and calculating bitch and the joke is on you.” He said he was going to “f**k me over and make sure I paid for what I did because I didn't have sex or engage in any physical contact with him”. He told me to “watch my back, and karma is a bitch and he was going to make me squirm and suffer”. He called me a “c**t and a whore and claimed I was on my high-horse and felt I was too good for him” He said he “you're a disgrace, I HATE YOU and I hope you die”. He said, "I warned you not to f**k with me, now you have to deal with my wrath. I hope only the worst in life for you moving forward”. He accused me of "laughing at him and calling him repulsive”. Which I never did. He called my phone numerous time screaming the same obscenities he was texting me.At first, I engaged with him trying to calm him down so he wouldn't come to the apartment and harm me. I told him “I didn't care about the money, and I didn't think he was repulsive. I thought he was a nice guy and I thought we could be friends” …. I was saying nice things to try and rationalize with him b/c he was SO ANGRY and belligerent and had so much HATRED behind his voice. Again, I was terrified. How can you hate someone with such passion when you've only known them for 24 hours.This morning at 8am, I get a blocked number calling me, I pick up, its him and he's screaming the same things and continues to text me another 50 times throughout the day using the same language. This guy obviously has some serve mental issues, so I was treading lightly and politely asked him to leave me alone, and that I would no longer engage with him. Once I stopped responding to his texts, he would call me from random numbers and I would pick up the phone thinking it was a work related call. But he kept going off about "how I wouldn't hook up with him and that I should rot in hell for that.” He threatened to physically hurt me again, and at that point I got very angry and I told him to leave me alone and never contact me again. Yet he continued to text me relentlessly, so I sent him two more messages to never contact me again, which was followed by continuous threatening and degrading text messages.My questions are:¥ I am scared for my life and I want to go to the police and get a restraining order, but I don't have any information about him except his phone number, so I don't know if there is a point. I am also weary that getting the police involved will trigger him to react violently¥ I don't know if what he's doing with the “card counting” is illegal or not, but he has so many different identities, and fake documents, and he's been banned from the casinos - so should I report him to the authorities?. Can anything be done? Obviously I am angry, and I don't want him out there doing this to other women. He is a dangerous man¥ I was extorted into giving him money, how do I go about that legally