I have a question involving the charge if adultery. My husband and I live separate from one another due to our jobs and have a verbal separate maintenance agreement(in my state a separation decree is not required). We have agreed to allow the other to have friendships/relations with the opposite sex provided it does not negatively affect the other party and our jobs. I am a civilian he is in the Army. Recently my husband befriended a young lady and when the relationship got too close for comfort he ended it. He never hid it from me and the more he tried to get away from her the more she has harassed us both.She has since gone to his commander for adultery claiming she has pictures. I spoke to the commander tonight and told her my situation. I explained the young lady knew he was married the whole time. I explained harassment I have endured and her attempts to extort money or time from my husband. I personally think she is bluffing about photos of him and her in the act as my husband swears he did not and has always been truthful to me and I personally think she was just trying to force a divorce, but even if she had such photos how much trouble would he get into. She is a civilian and I have proof that she knew he was married when she began to pursue him I also have the proof of harassment and was asked by the commander today to get a restraining/no contact order. Nothing ever happened on the Military's time and none of his coworkers new about it. Ge changed his number twice and she has persisted. She has a history with the same behavior with another SSG who was also married. I told the commander about our alternative agreement and how the relationship never bothered me until the harassment but my husband said I should not have told her that. I really don't believe there was sex but it is not relationship ending if there was. I just would like to know the most likely scenario.I just do not think it is fair for someone to be ok with something for months and then be allowed to cry victim when they do not get their way
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