I first got divorced in 2001, we agreed to joint custody of our two sons. In 2008 courts gave me sole custody of my youngest son who was 8 at the time and oldest son was 15. The reason was due to the "father's need to control petitioner and children:, the oldest son, being affected by his father's dysfunction, started high school at his fathers house since he has already been in trouble and started to adapt his dad's ways. My ex remarried, my oldest son dropped out of High School, now smokes pot and is married trying to raise a baby working at pizza parlor. My ex's step son had a paraphernalia charge, accp/pur alcohol minor charge, and theft charge, all while living with ex. My ex had my 16 yr old hand me a copy of petition on 6/27 and he walked out and went to his dad's crying his eyes out, he was torn. I have sole custody of my 16 year old. My son will be starting his junior year at high school and I dont feel it is in his best interest to change. He was on football team as well. my ex has known he has been skipping football practice and now he is practicing at his fathers' house 2 hours away. my ex promoted our son to sneak around and lie to his mother. nothing has been decided as of today. My ex never ever contacted me before or after this to discuss anything. my ex and his wife will do anything to undermine my authority. The judge even wrote in the sole custody papers that "father engages in his visitations out of control for mother and children" Will the judge take the history into account or just go by what child wants. he is 16 of course he wants to live where this is clearly no supervision. He says I yell at him too much because his tv is too loud and i want him to pick up after himself. The father has a history of game playing and if we go by the court documents this is my half of the summer but my son hasn't been returned home nor has my ex encouraged my son to come home. My ex has a history of manipulation and not doing what is best for the children. My son has a GPA of 3.68, was involved heavy in football, has lots of friends, etc. He thinks the "grass is greener" my oldest son got into fist fights with his dad and now cant even pay his bills due to having a dead end job and doing weed so cant pass drug test! What can I do to get him back home! Sheriff dept just told me to get attorney. Im just sick and heart broken and torn as to what to do. My ex is always warned but never reprimanded. He is in violation of current agreement by not sending my son home. My son said that dad will have an emergency order by the end of the week. I have heard nothing.
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