Thank you for using justanswer. Its my understanding that if you pay any proivder yourself on behalf of your sister-in-law, for example you write a check to her doctor to cover her office visit, then SSI does not count that money against her. You will want to contact them and see if this is still correct and if the state you live in has any regulations regarding this.
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