Our legal system, unfortunately, makes it very easy to obtain a divorce and the consent of both parties to the divorce is not necessary for that. Even if just one party to the marriage can convince the court that the marriage has broken down irretrievably, then I am afraid the court will order a divorce. Put differently, if your wife insists that she no longer wants to be married to you, the court is not going to order her to remain married to you because you do not feel the same way as she does.
So, if you do defend a divorce on the basis that the marriage has not broken down irretrievably, the court may require that you go for counseling first, but that normally only happens when the person seeking the divorce agree that counseling may aid in changing their mind. If the person seeking the divorce is adamant that there is no reasonable chance of reconciling with her spouse, the court will probably order the divorce rather than counseling.
So, if you are going to respond to the mediator, then it is my advice that you response go to the settlement agreement, rather than insisting on counseling.
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