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As you can imagine, after 11 years with my husband, this caught me completely off guard. I saw messages from her on his phoned Sat 3 weeks ago, he moved out of the house on the Monday, moved in with his brother until last week Wednesday, when we met and he admitted that there was a relationship. At the time I did not consider to what extent. On Thursday morning he called her up told her he had gone back home and that he wanted to end all contact. She threatened to tell me about the actual extent of their relationship, that he has stayed over at her parents house, had sex in his office etc. He then called me up on Thursday afternoon and told me everything. I then confronted her. She (at still living with her parents, no obligations or responsibilities wanted to tell me how I botched up my marriage and how my husband is special and they love each other bla bla). I hung up as I told her that she is a child and actually does not know what she's talking about. I then sent her a message asking whether her parents are aware of the fact that she is having sex with a married man under their roof, she replied that they had met him and know about him. I then asked whether her boss knew? she did not reply. She is a rep, and called at my husband every afternoon at his office for the daily shag, they also went to her house during the day for sex. I mailed the owner of the business, her boss and told her of this girls activities. Her boss replied saying that it is certainly not their companies policy to condone such activities and that she will deal with it accordingly. I am in possession of this mail. On Friday evening, my husband got a whatsapp on his phone from a number not listed as a contact saying, look at what you have done to Chane, she has lost her job and tried to commit suicide we are on our way to the hospital. I replied from his phone saying - it was her decision, she knew he was married and had a family. We heard nothing until this morning, her mother left a hysterical message on my husbands phone saying he must pray she wakes up otherwise her and her husband will deal with him and his wife meaning us, we kept the messages as well. My fear is that if something happens to this girl, they may, in an emotional rage attack us, or harm my children. and if this girl recovers I think she is psycho enough to come after my family. And if she dies, could we be held accountable? It is a self inflicted action. She knew he was married, so did her parents and they allowed it to. For her to do something that stupid after a relationship that was a mere 7 weeks, is silly. I am possession of the mail I sent her boss, as I also deal with IR relations, I am well aware that there should have been some sort of disciplinary procedure followed. I think it had less to do with her job and more so with the breaking up. I also think that her release may have been aggravated by a combination of poor performance and other factors.
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