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Only the social security administration has access to your or your spouse's social security records. However, there are many places that you or your spouse have to have used your social security number that may be accessed to get the number.
1. Look on your last year's tax return--state or federal and it will be there. If you didn't file taxes together last year or your spouse died more than a year ago, you can ask social security for past returns for a small fee-----and from those you can get his number.
2. Contact your bank because every joint bank account the two of you had has your social security numbers attached to it.
3. Every joint credit card you have had an application and that application needed your social security card so that you could apply for credit.
4. If you rent an apartment or home, or have ever purchased a home with a mortgage, chances are good that you provided a written document to the landlord before you rented with your social security number, or that you listed your social security numbers on the mortgage documents so that they could run a credit check on you.
5. Any employer that he have worked for in since 1936 would have a record of his social security number.
6. Finally, even the military can provide you with a number if you can provide basic information about the service member which is retrievable from his birth certificate, and even his death certificate.
7. Finally, for social security numbers of persons deceased, keep in mind that if the person has died, virtually every death certificate issued in the US over the past 40 years has the social security number of the deceased entered on the document. So if you have a copy of the death certificate, chances are good that you have his number as well.
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