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Four months ago I joined a singles' activity group to meet new people. I was immediately befriended by a nice man who was obviously interested in me. I was friendly with him but not overly so as I did not feel an immediate attraction to him. He is 51 years old and I am 63 though people think I am in my late forties. I am not sure if he knows my age although some people from the group do. He always makes a point to seek me out, sit beside me, is very attentive and shows me in many ways that he really likes me. He always finds opportunities to give me long hugs and walks me to my car when it is time to leave. He is not flirtatious with other women and only treats me in this way. About a month after we met, he had a little too much to drink after one of the events and when he walked me to my car he became amorous and tried to kiss me. I gently pushed him away and kissed him on the cheek. The next day he emailed me an apology and the next time I saw him he apologized again. I told him it was no problem and not to worry about it. I teased him about having a little too much to drink. As time went on I started to like him more and more. I realized how much we had in common, what a great personality he had, how intelligent he was, what a good man he was, just the kind of man I would like to get to know better. He has become very attractive to me and I decided I would like to get to know him on a more personal level. I tried to show him this, smiling warmly at him, touching his arm when talking to him, lingering in his arms when he hugged me, all the things I could think of to show him I had developed feelings for him as well though I always let him be the initiator. As time went on we seemed to become even closer but he has not asked me for a date. I never initiate or pursue men, I am very old fashioned that way but felt he might be afraid to ask me for a date because of the rejected kiss previously so I decided to text him casually inviting him over for a movie and pizza on a Saturday evening. I knew for a fact he had no plans. He texted me back stating that he sometimes enjoyed a quiet Saturday evening but that night was not one of them. ??? He suggested I drop in the next day prior to an event we were attending with the group for a glass of wine. I agreed but felt hurt, embarrassed and confused by his rejection. The next day when I arrived at his place he greeted me warmly but I could tell he was very nervous. We talked comfortably for a couple of hours then left together for the event. He continued to be attentive all afternoon then we drove back to his place. As I was getting ready to get into my car to go home, he invited me in and I could tell he really wanted me to. I said yes and we spent 4 nice hours talking and sharing information about ourselves. He shared with me that he had been out of his marriage for about one year. He is the one who left as they had grown apart and things had not been good for a long time. I could tell there was still anger on both sides. He has two children, a daughter in university and a 15 year old son he shares custody half time. It sounds like he is a wonderful Dad. He asked me all about myself also. He did not try to get physical in any way and I was disappointed, I wanted a kiss! I thought about making the first move but was still stinging from the previous night's rejection so I did not. Since then things are pretty much the same, special attention and affection at the group events and texting(initiated by him) in between. On New Years' Eve we attended a house party separately hosted by one of the ladies from the group. Towards the end of the evening when most people had left, he put on some soft music, took my hand and led me to the living room for a couple of slow dances. We held each other like we never wanted to let go, it was awesome. A short while later when he was leaving he took my hand and let me to the door where he kissed me in private and held me saying: "We'll talk". I felt we were finally taking a step forward. I assumed he would finally ask me for a date this weekend, I knew he did not have his son. Instead he texted me last night chatting for 45 minutes and did not mention getting together. He did not mention what happened NYE. OK, that's all the information, now here is the question. What the heck???? My mind is on overdrive but I am totally leaving him alone. I feel confused, hurt, frustrated and annoyed. This man has led me to believe he has special feelings for me. Is he using me to stroke his ego? If he is not ready even to date why did he bother befriending me in this way and leading me on. What should I do now? Do I: Admit to him I am confused about what's going on between us, in a non confrontational way? Remain friendly but back away from anything more(like physical contact). When he notices(and he will) and asks me what's wrong, what do I say? Help! I am not prepared to continue in this way.