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Need Second Opinion on: Back in December I met a girl through my local Hockey team. We both volunteer for the team. I mean we met the season before, but we really started talking to each other at that time. After a game, we hang out at a bar and played pool. We had a lot of fun and really enjoyed each other. After that we started talking a lot and tried to get to really know each other. 2 weeks later, we went out at the bar, having a lot of fun and that's when we fell in love with each other. She told me that she had a crush on me for quiet some time. Brittany and I then started spending lots of time together doing all king of things (pool, movies, dinners, going for walks, sleepovers) etc ... We were enjoying each other a lot and we were making each other so happy. We also had a lot of things in common. It was only my 2nd relationship, (my 1st was a bad one and one to forget), so I was very excited and we were looking forward to see our relationship grow. I treated her very very well, was very thoughtful and caring of her and I was being very affectionate. We never really fought, until the last week of our relationship. I'm 29 years old by the way. But about 2 months later, she tells me that she was not ready for a relationship and was looking more for a casual thing. She also had too much going on in her life (family issues back home, 4800 miles away). She also thought that we jumped in a relationship too soon and things went too fast. She needed time and space to figure herself out, but when I asked if we could ever get back together, she said maybe, but couldn't promise it. She said that she enjoyed me a lot, but needed the time and space to figure her self out. Although, I accepted it and we still continued talking to each other afterwards, it was a big heartache that I had to overcome (I'm not totally over it yet). I thought she was my dream girl and still think she might be. I also thought that I did not do a lot of things wrong, other than I was perhaps a bit too much on her ass and she felt suffocated. We were seeing each other 4, 5 times a week. A couple of weeks later, she got blunt and said she didn't want to get into a relationship anytime soon and doesn't want anyone to wait for her. She appologied for being blunt the following day. Since then, we've been talking through text. No flirting or anything like that, but we are in good terms I would say. As far as I know, she is not seeing someone else and I'm not either. Which makes me think she was being honest. Last month, she offered me to go for a beer, which I wanted too, but had to work. She asked me for 3 straight days, but haven't asked since. Maybe she's busy? Sometimes she asks me how are things going on in my life. Yesterday, we ran into each other for the first time in 3 months, while we were biking (Hockey season ended 3 months ago). We talked for about 5 minutes (casual conversation), but then I let her go, because she was with 2 kids. Right now, as much as I would love to get back with her someday, I'm just trying to not worry too much about it (but she's on my mind all almost all day long). I'm taking care of myself and doing hobbies that I enjoy. Do you think there's a chance for me and her to ever to get back together? Am I doing things right at the moment? What should I do in the near future? Also, she was in 3 different relationships prior to me. 1st lasted 3 1/2 years (a good one), 2nd lasted, 1 year (a bad one) and 3rd lasted 3 1/2 years (a bad one), but mine only lasted 2 months. Which has me scratching my head over that. Is it just bad luck/unfortunate circumstances that I'm experiencing?