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How can you rebuild trust?
I fell in love with someone who told me they were divorced. After 5 months, he admits he is still married and I stayed because I loved him. She cheated on him with his best friend. We became close over the summer but I was still a secret. Then he told everyone. Right after he found out that I had been venting to a guy friend about him and I. This guy friend wanted more than friendship. I had a emotional affair. Over the course of last fall, we tried. We were so busy working and loving in between. Lots of hurtful things were said and done that I am having a hard time forgetting. I forgave but I can't seem to forget. I question his character and is he the right one for me. We have a connection that I've never had before with anyone. We can have so much fun when it is just the two of us. I love him. He is not as outgoing as me. My kids (18 and 20 year old girls who will be leaving soon) don't care for him because of all the hurt they saw me go through. He is bipolar and deals with depression a lot. I'm very upbeat and positive. He wants to do now everything I've wanted. He has a 3 and 8 year old. I'm a confident person most of the time and he has lots of insecurities. I have insecurities too and have been cheated on just like he has. He is ready to walk if I can't make up my mind now. He says he wants all of me or none of me. I want a strong person but I'm not sure if he is. I get it but every time he threatens to walk away I feel like I could throw up and I'm afraid I will regret it. Trust is a huge thing for me. I used to say "I can't deal with a liar" but I lied to him to about my emotional affair with a guy friend. I'm lost without him. I went on a vacation with my 18 year old daughter and her boyfriend and he was supposed to go but since she didn't like him I didn't let him come. How could I do that if I truly loved him? I love my daughter too and this was her last spring break with me. She graduates this year. Please help me. I feel like I'm in such a bad place. I want to decide otherwise I will lose him. How can I trust him? I want to.