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Hi, nearly all the advice I read tells me how bad it is to be having sex with my ex partner if I wish to reconcile. I am just wondering if this is absolutely definite or can be different depending on the situation. I broke up with him, suddenly and irrationally (I was hyper emotional/sensitive due to being pregnant which I did not know at the time) I hurt his pride, ego and broke some of our trust. I am now 6 months pregnant, I rushed getting back together and he is also only getting used to the idea of being a father again. He has had two bad experiences with this. He comes to dinner once a week, we spend the night together, talk, eat, laugh and do things such as put the cot up etc. He generally gives me a massage and we make love (or have sex) we cuddle for hours, he stayed for the first time in 3 months (since we broke up) last week. He is coming for dinner again tonight and am hoping he will stay. However I am vert stressed I should stop having sex. I realize I do want a future with him, we have amazing chemistry and I am pregnant which has seemed to raise my libido and make me crave that bond with him I will admit! That said I don't want to ruin our chances of a full reconciliation. He said we are "just friends" but he is confused and scared. He stated in counselling he doesn't want to risk breaking up again if we have a chid. When we are together he is very caring, loving and warm. He has been keeping contact and warming to the pregnancy. He has planned to be at the birth and organised time off work. I feel he loves me but he seems to push and pull and be very conflicted. Anyway I know we need to work and focus on our emotional connection and communication for the child's and our sake and would like to know if I am doing the wrong thing by having sex? I don't believe considering our situation, the past etc he would be using me. But long term is more important id my main concern as I would like to be a family. We our going to counselling which was his idea.