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We are married only 14 months, however we have met more than 3 years ago. I was really calm guy and she was a party girl. She made me different for a couple of months. Then everything calmed done and it seemed she had changed only sometimes she partied with her friend. It was going normal. After one year of friendship I proposed and one year later we got married. I was purely of love. She was not pregnant, never has been. Because we would like to stand on our feet first before start to think about kids. Two months after our marriage we moved to another country, where I started my PhD. She was not very good in English, so she started to work in the shop. She hated that job but everything was perfect. We were enjoying each other company, spent a lot of time traveling and we were as happy as we haven't been before. Almost the year later this June we had holiday for two weeks back in our country and when we returned our beautiful life started to fade away. First of all, I had a lot of work, because in the end of October I as obliged to go abroad for two weeks and I had to prepare. So I was working almost without weekends. However, If my wife asked to take the free day to do something I did it without the hesitation. Second, while we were on holiday my wife was informed what she will get an opportunity to get her job of dreams. She started to work as an tattoo apprentice. Bet she was not paid for that so was doing part time in the shop as well. In the end of August she had also started to take college classes for the language. So she is working in the three places now. Just after we returned from holiday I started to notice that she is becoming colder with me. I have to admit I am very jealous person. And she got a new colleague in the studio. She was always speaking well of him. Also even started to think about the travels with him and party with him. I was not happy with that, because he is single, and I told her so. But she just laughed and said that he is not pretty and they are just friends and I can not tell her with whom she has to be friends and with whom she has to travel. So my travel day arrived. I just wanted to spoke the next day I departed. But she did not answer. While my brother was living for the summer with us I called him and he told me that she was not at home for whole night. What I did later is wrong I know but I had to know. So I logged in her facebook since I knew her email login. So the massages wre deleted with this guy. So I checked google where her phone was and it showed this guy's place (I had lifted him home once). After that I managed to get to answer her. She tried to lie me that she was with a girl. But eventually she admited truth and apologized me and swore that she didn't sleep with him. I was unsure and whole two weeks were terrible for me. I was going crazy, we had several fights on skype. When I returned she acted as nothing had happened. I tried to speak and to know what to do but she didn't want. I strongly believe that she was not sleeping with him. I know what they are colleagues, but I can not do anything with myself. Every morning before the work in the studio they go for a coffee, they still have two trips planed next week. One is in his country to stay with his family for a tattoo convention. I said I dislike it and she has to cancel it. But she is not doing that. Otherwise she is telling me that i am controlling her, stalking, she fears me now ( because I logged in her account after that several times). But I am not sure I can believe that she is telling truth to me. We have fights almost everyday, because I initiate them. But I cannot manage with myself. I try to close my eyes on everything, try to understand but later I just break down. Because she doesn't want to go home, she stays at studio even she is exhausted. she says that she can relax there. She says that she fear me. But at the same time she did not do anything to change anything after her terrible mistake when she lied me. I tried to be the best husband I buy her flowers, hug her, want to kiss her, made a drawing table for her (I took holidays in university). And was like that before, but eventually I break down and start a fight. She is cold with me now and keep saying that she has a right for freedom. But I say what in the marriage you have to have a compromise and I would do with that. I told her if she showed me she loved me I would let her go everywhere she wants. But she doesn't do anything to make it better and I am struggling with that left alone. She only keeps saying that she loves me, but she want rest and to find herself. It seems that she hasn't grown of her party girl age (shes now 24 I am 26). She keeps saying that I need friends which I don't have here but I only want to be with her like it was before she started to work in the studio. I love her so much I would do everything but I am getting desperate. She even no longer cares of home and animals anymore. When I got back from the trip it was total mess at home. What should we do? Is it possible to cure our relationship?