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My name is ***** ***** I am a psychotherapist in the Metro Boston area.
I'm so sorry you are struggling in your relationship. I imagine you feel alone and probably angry that the woman you are dating is no longer available. In terms of your question, it's impossible for me to know where she is at but I can say that her immediate focus and priority at this time centers around her daughter and her soon-to-arrive grandchild. I also imagine once the baby is born, her days will be spent helping her daughter and being with the baby. My guess is the relationship you once shared is not the priority to her it once was and in terms of moving forward, I think you need to do a couple of things...
First and foremost, please go deep to determine exactly how you feel about her. If there is still much love there, please sit down with her and let her know you miss being with her. Perhaps the two of you can schedule a day or two each week to be together? Or, maybe she can stay with you a couple of nights a week? If she shares the same feelings, no doubt, the two of you can find a way to spend more time together.
Secondly, if your feelings are not there and/or you wish to be with someone more emotionally available right now, I would move forward.
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I think your decision is incredibly wise and sadly I believe you are a victim of circumstance and timing. I would be sure to keep my personal life active--doing the things you love and find happiness in. Please surround yourself with many friends and spend time with them on a regular basis. If/when things settle a bit with your girlfriend, you can then move the relationship forward into a more serious place. If time continues to bringing similar unavailability on her end, I would walk away.
Does this make sense?
I absolutely agree with you. You also deserve to be in an equal relationship.
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Oh dear, I think you may be waiting around for awhile for her to clear her schedule and create space for you. I fear she is not emotionally available at this time. I know you have feelings for her but get the sense from everything you tell me that she is not in the mindset or place to have a relationship at this time. I am so sorry as I imagine this is difficult to hear.
I imagine she truly likes you and perhaps is even interested but sadly her current situation makes her completely unavailable. Or, perhaps she thinks she can juggle everything going on but unfortunately this doesn't seem to be the case.
Oh dear, this says so much. Since her profile is still on Match.com, I would assume she does not want to settle down with you and is keeping her options open. Please move forward, sweet soul. I am so sorry.
In terms of going out with others, I doubt she has time due to her job and caring for her daughter. Perhaps she wanted to slow down to allow for possibility with other guys. I imagine she likes you and wants to keep you around for now. My recommendation is to walk away now as my belief is if she hasn't committed as of yet, I doubt she will when her life becomes even busier when the baby arrives.
I think this is a wise idea. I am so sorry she is not committed to having a relationship with you at this time. You deserve to be with someone who is emotional available and loves you deeply. Please do not settle for less.
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