Hi Welcome back. How is everything going?
I did not receive any new question from you until tonight. Please fill me in as I will be signing off for the night in a little bit.
It sounds to me like he is trying to remain friendly...you work together but he is stating his position that it wasn't anything more than a casual thing for him and the intimacy was an added bonus of the friendship. He is doing what he can to talk to you to keep things light and easy but this does not sound like a great place to put your energy to think you will have much more in the future or anything that will last or be very serious. I know it is hard for you but he hasn't shown an interest and when you pull away he brings you back in but these types of things don't have much staying power. So, the best thing sounds like to keep a good relationship at work and not engage on a personal level. Give him back his things and move forward with your life.
I know how hard this is for you, but you are smart and strong and will be able to pick up and dust off one you allow yourself to put this behind you.
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