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First of all, what are you doing to treat your ADHD and depression?
Have you had therapy on your own?
Thanks for the additional information.
I'm glad to hear you are getting the proper help for your own medical issues. Your significant other's concern that you aren't using your therapy to work on relationship issues isn't realistic.
Your therapy is about you. When people are interested in improving a relationship, they both need to invest their emotional energy in couples' therapy. One person cannot make or unmake a relationship; it takes two.
That would be the best thing to pursue right now.
You can just tell her that your therapy is for you and it is not the intent of that therapy to improve relationships.
For relationship improvement, any couple needs couples' therapy. It takes both of you to make an improvement.