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My name is ***** ***** I am a psychotherapist in the Metro Boston area.
Ohhhhh sweet soul, what a complicated situation. It sounds like you and your children's father have a difficult history, each of you contributing to the overall breakdown. I understand your desire to have your ex back in your life but please....I beg you....get the help you need before considering returning to the relationship. You are a mother (with another child on the way) and need to be the best you can be--whether you decide to reunite or not. Please do this for you--for your children as well--not for him. It sounds like your ex has much to personal work to do as well. His behavior is beyond cruel and absolutely unnecessary.
Please take space from him--stay away and try to move on with your life. If both of you find your way back to each other in the future, after working on your own personal issues, so be in. Work on yourself. Get things in order and focus on yourself, your health and your children. You deserve a life of peace, minus this chaos.
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Ohhhh Marla, I don't know. His behavior is anything but kind, though and I fear him continuing to hurt you. It's not so much what he wants at this point, it's what you want and what would make the most sense for your family. Please work on the things that are yours and if he returns you can then decide based upon where you are at.
I have no doubt that at different times in your relationship, each of you have contributed to the overall breakdown. I do understand that you want your ex back but please use this time to work on yourself. If things come together in the future, it will be wonderful but you must heal yourself first. You have been through so much and now you are bringing another baby into the mix. Please make sure you take care of yourself first and foremost.
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Ohhhh sweet soul, I am so incredibly sorry. It's so difficult to walk away, isn't it? It's now time for you to grieve this incredible loss and move forward in your life. I would connect with a local therapist to get some assistance as this is obviously a tremendous amount to handle. I would also check in with your doctor to see if he/she could get you temporarily on some medicine that would allow you to sleep/eat and lessen your anxiety--perhaps an antidepressant.
I've been in your horrible dark place and felt like things would never change but slowly--very slowly--over time things gradually started improving. Gradually I was able to sleep, eat a little bit and then began noticing how I made it through the day without collapsing in tears. It was gradual, but please know it does happen.
You will move forward and you will find your way. Please trust me....I'm cheering you on.
I'm cheering you on. You can do this. I promise you can. If I can, you totally can.
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