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I am so sorry your relationship ended. I imagine you are horribly sad. Can you give me a little bit more information about your relationship and how it ended so I can better answer your question? How long were the two of you together? What was the reason for the relationship ending? Are you currently speaking or seeing each other at all?
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Ohhhh sweet soul, I am so sorry. This is incredibly difficult.
I imagine she believes she needs to be with her family at this time and for whatever reason feels you cannot be included in that emotional space. I wonder if she sees it almost as having to make a choice between them or you? Is it possible her family were key players in this break-up?
Her unfriending those who are in your circle tells me that she is grieving the loss of the two of you and trying to move forward. I am so sorry as this is probably not what you want to hear. I'm wondering if you could, from time to time, drop her a card or a very casual e-mail...just to let her know she is still on your mind and that you think fondly ***** *****
Your heart must be broken, especially since it seems unclear as to why she ended the relationship. Obviously there were many changes going on her life and I understand her wanting to make decisions on her own but unsure why you can't be part of her life during this?
I respect the fact you are honoring her need for space. I imagine this is incredibly difficult to do when all you want to connect with her.
Please take good care of yourself while mourning this loss....work hard, focus on yourself, get lots of exercise, eat and sleep in a healthy way. You deserve to be loved deeply and hopefully love will come to you again soon.
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I am so pleased you are working to better yourself. Please continue to do this.
As mentioned, I would casually reach out to her and see if she would be open to talking. I would tread gently but request a clearer understanding as to why she left. I do believe this will help you process things a bit better.
I am so sorry you are experiencing this. It is, no doubt, incredibly painful. Please pull those in your circle close around you and reach out for help if needed.
I understand but you can never get her back if you don't reach out. I would be very careful about how you go about it so she doesn't push you away though. I do believe you are correct that her family had an enormous influence on her decision to leave the relationship.
Yes, I did figure she was about that age as you mentioned graduation and job. Do you think they have big plans for her and don't want anything holding her back from that?? They still carry a lot of influence with her...even at 22...wow!
Yes, I like the idea of sending her a letter of encouragement. Great idea. This then puts it in her court and doesn't feel threatening.
I understand but do you believe they actually would cut her off. And if so, how would her life change....she's a legal adult? Or, do you believe this is an anxiety-fueled false belief that they feed into?
Yes, I can absolutely see how these two major life changes would pull her back in. I imagine it would be very difficult to be with her right now since she is so entwined with her family and their thoughts/opinions.
Oh my, I wonder if things would change for her if she knew that? Please reach out to her. I like your idea of a letter of encouragement. I think this would be kind, appropriate and might open the door for some communication.
Yes, I can understand your fear. It's impossible to know where she is at right now. I would send the letter to see if she responds. I like your approach and can't imagine that she wouldn't respond.
Yes this is a possibility. But again, you will never know unless you attempt to reach out.
I agree...perhaps waiting a little bit might be best as your mom just reached out.
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