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I think that this is a tough situation. It doesnt sound much like the foundation is really built if the small things are lied about. I would think that this is more of a foundation of deceit and then they attempt to minimize their actions by saying "I was kidding" or "only joking." It sounds passive aggressive and that is much worse sometimes because you cannot always identify their motives.... Maybe provide a bit more history so that I can fully support you.
I would like for you to take a look at this article. It is about "white" lies, but how these really do affect a relationship much more than one may realize. You should be able to click on the link.
Also read this one:
I especially like the second article that was sent....
It seems like he is being "passive aggressive" about things, which is really hurtful. He was not forthright about his feelings and was hiding his real intentions. I think that would bother anyone. The relationship with your ex should not be a threat to him. It seems that this is a situation that is about his insecurity, not about your use of his name. Your children's father will always be a part of your life, but it does not mean that you want to continue on with him as a daily part of your life. You will have to have communication with him-- that should be a given for someone to accept. I am sorry that your partner is turning his own insecurities on you.....
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