Good evening, Maggie, and thank you so much for your message. I realize it's difficult to reach out. Please know I honor your courage.
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Oh dear, online dating can be rough, huh? So I want to ensure I fully understand your situation....the two of you went out and he asked that no further names be given to him as he was into you. Then, you notice he is on a completely different online site? Are you currently dating him? If so, how many dates have you been on? Are you sleeping with him? Do you like this guy and want a relationship with him?
Forgive all the questions. I want to make sure I give you a very thorough response and understand everything going on
I look forward to hearing from you soon.
Good morning and thank you so much for your response. Thank you for your patience.
I understand it is very early on and you are still determining if he is the right guy for you in the long-term. I imagine neither one of you wants to be the first to take down their profile or have THE conversation.
It sounds like each of you are invested in doing things together in the future and if you are spending a regular amount of time together, he probably isn't following up with any other women. I imagine you do something similar? Perhaps reading your messages from your profile but not setting up any formal dates with other guys?
I'm thinking a conversation needs to be had and there are some casual ways of starting it without sounding needy. Maybe say something like this...
"I love the time we spend together and always look forward to it. I do have a profile up on another site and would like to take it down as my interest is entirely with you. I don't want to put any pressure on you to do the same but wanted to let you know where I am at."
I imagine at this point he'll agree and say something similar. I don't think you can ask he take down his as we all commit in different timing but by letting him know you are invested, he will most probably do similarly as it sounds the two of you have a wonderful connection.
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