Good morning and thank you so much for your message. I realize it's difficult to reach out. Please know I honor your courage.
My name is ***** ***** I am a psychotherapist in the Metro Boston area of the United States.
Ohhhh sweet soul, you have endured so much! My goodness, I am so terribly sorry. Yes, I understand your frustration. It probably feels like an endless battle? I can see how you are overwhelmed and unsure of what your next step should be. In order for your relationship to be successful, you both must be invested in it....willing to own what is yours to own and available to talk and communicate about hurts and concerns. Sadly, it does not seem your husband is able to/or want to do this. This compounded by his disrespect must make things near impossible to tolerate.
My advice would be to reach out for professional help....speak with a therapist to get as strong as you can be then carefully proceed forward with what feels right once you in that place. I'm unsure of how long your husband is incarcerated for but this seems like a perfect time to begin your own internal work. It doesn't make sense to keep investing in a relationship that no longer serves you so please put your focus entirely on you and your child. I also recommend surrounding yourself with those who love and support you.
This, no doubt, be a difficult time for you but certainly not as painful as remaining with a person who is disrespectful and dishonest. You deserve to be treated kindly and loved deeply.
Have I answered your question? Is there anything else I can do to assist you further? I want to ensure you are pleased with my service. I also gently request you provide a star rating for me. Of course, we can continue to talk after the rating is provided.
Please take good care of yourself and feel free to contact me with any questions you may have.
I understand, sweet soul, that you have invested much and have many years put into your relationship but as you know, these are not reasons to stay. As toxic as the relationship is, it is still familiar so therefore comfortable---even if it's chaotic and unhealthy. We are drawn to what feels like home and I imagine perhaps your own childhood home was a bit chaotic....so this feels comfortable and familiar in a strange way. I know you keep returning to him, hoping that maybe this one time it will be different and sadly it is not. Again and again you are let down, wanting to believe it might change but sadly it won't as he is unmovable. Please start putting together a plan that involves you moving forward and not looking back....
I hope you are well. Just wanted to check in as I have not received a rating from you as of yet To me this means you may have another question.Please let me know – I am simply touching base. Thanks!