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I'm looking for someone with relevant educational and professional background who can help review a series of games designed for couples to learn principles of marital harmony. The novelty here is not the content, but the vehicle by which couples are engaged to take this course and then by which they assimilate the materials.
Submitted: 4 months ago.
Category: Relationship
Expert:  CounselorJules replied 4 months ago.

Good morning. I notice that your question has been posted for a while. I can help provide research for you, if nothing else. In order to be clear, you need specific games that are used in marital counseling to increase a bond and improve harmony. Content is less important, but more about the methods of engaging and processing the materials. So, it sounds like these need to have had measurable results proving their success?

Expert:  CounselorJules replied 4 months ago.

I am going to send some links for you. I hope that these are helpful.

http://www.focusonthefamily.ca/marriage/first-five-years/7-team-building-games-for-a-winning-marriage

http://mothersniche.com/20-questions-a-communication-game-to-strengthen-your-marriage/

http://www.ehow.com/list_6503978_team_building-activities-couples.html

Something that I also encourage my clients to do is complete their "love language" profile. http://www.5lovelanguages.com/profile/ It is based on the following premise:

Gary Chapman found that there are 5 patterns of emotional connections and how we demonstrate them. He calls these our "love languages." The Love languages are words of affirmation, gifts, physical touch, quality time, and acts of service. I will explain a bit of these. Words of affirmation are based on demonstrating appreciation, approval, recognizing efforts made by you or your partner- on the flip side if you recognize that you are sensitive to criticism or perceived criticism this can be a sign that your love language may be words of affirmation. Gifts are about little tokens or offerings that suggest that you are thinking of someone. It can be simple or elaborate, but it's the thought that counts. As far as acts of service, a quote comes to mind, ”Actions speak louder than words.” Acts of service may include mowing the yard, helping with laundry, starting the dishes, making the bed, helping load the car or unload the car of groceries. It could even be something that helps someone else in their career— anything that offers support someone through an action. Quality Time is based on providing undivided attention to your partner. Turning off the TV, making eye contact, turning toward them as they communicate with you— it is about focusing on your partner without allowing distractions to occur. Finally, physical touch, there is power in tenderness. This does not have to include sexual touch, but more or less, gentleness. It can be holding hands, a stroke of their hair, a massage, or a simple hug.

I will do more research for "evidence based" games as well.

Expert:  CounselorJules replied 4 months ago.

This is really interesting and accessible:

http://www.geekwire.com/2012/kouply-mobile-game-save-marriage/

In the article it refers to another app. "Kouply isn’t the only app pursuing this strategy of gamifying relationships. Another example isPairSpark, a Seattle startup with apps for iPhone and Android."

Expert:  CounselorJules replied 4 months ago.

I actually have this game in my office and I really like it also. It is a "communication" game called The UnGame. http://www.ungame.com/

http://mathman.dreamhosters.com/MathMan/pdfs/Ungame.pdf-- In this PDF it gives you an example of the questions.

Expert:  CounselorJules replied 4 months ago.

Also, let me know if i am on the right track at all. I dont want to waste your time and not provide what you are mostly looking for :)

Expert:  CounselorJules replied 4 months ago.

I just wanted to follow back up with you. I hope that you found the information satisfactory and that you will consider providing a positive rating (3 stars or better) in order to accept the answer given. This is the only manner in which experts receive credit for the answers given. Our goal is to provide excellent service and I want to make sure that you feel your needs were met. I am happy to continue assisting you if necessary. Please feel free to follow up with any additional questions.

Thank you and best wishes, Jules

Expert:  CounselorJules replied 3 months ago.

I was going through my questions and I was curious about yours! Did you ever find information for your study? I am actually curious about what you found?