Thank you for reaching out to me, I hope I can be a help. I would hate to see you live in frustration for the next four years as well. I also don't want to see your children raised in an unhappy home.
The solution is to make it work. I recently surveyed several couples that had survived over fifteen years of marriage, The key to their longevity was reported to be over and over again just simple commitment.
My wife and I have been married 31 years. We have encountered difficult times many occasion over the years. The good times make marriage worth surviving, It is through enduring the bad we gain the opportunity to enjoy the good.
Figure out what has changed in your treatment of your spouse. Recreate that action. Treat her special. Be chivalrous. Do the one small thing she asks of you the most, Try this for six months. If after six months you have not changed your attitude toward her and her toward you, then decide if you give it up or hang on for a few more years. Hey, it is worth a try.
Does that make sense? Keep me posted...