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It sounds like he initiated the email to her? That would be bothersome to me. If it was a response to something, I may feel differently, but it almost sounds as though he was testing the waters a bit. The other thing that I am curious about is if he struggles with commitment? The vacation may have gone perfectly for him as well, but the idea of this perfect relationship may have provoked some sort of fear. I think if you feel that there is any doubt from him, that you either have to choose to speak to him and ask him to affirm you, or you have to ask for boundaries. Sometimes simply asking him will keep him accountable. Be prepared though if he attempts to placate blame and say that you were snooping in his messages. Don't fall into that trap and apologize and feel responsible. He chose to email her; you just happened to come across it.....
Yes, I can definitely understand the confusion, hurt, and doubt. I do hope that you will focus though on the positives and think about how you are affirmed in the relationship. Do you feel that he offers any other signs of doubt? Like is he overprotective with his phone or secretive? Do you see that he makes contact with females often? How is he on social media? Have you been intimidated by other women when he is around or is he attentive towards you?
Well, I think that you have a lot of positives and you are in the new part of the relationship still, but as you grow closer or feel more fond of him, it does make us feel more vulnerable. I understand the boundaries, or lack of, that scare you a bit. Now is the time though to allow conflict to create an opportunity for you guys. You don't ever have to feel bad for telling someone what it is that you want in a relationship. You don't have to apologize for being vulnerable and humble about these things. I encourage you to do so. I would say something like, "I want to be straightforward with you about something. I care about you. In fact as we have spent more time together, I realize just how strongly I feel, but I am scared. I think that you are an incredibly handsome man and I know that you have a lot of female friends. I am scared of losing you sometimes or being made a fool of. I do appreciate and recognize the affirmations, attention, and time that you offer me. I also recognize that you have made the decision to move here for me. That really says a lot about us. I guess after seeing the email, I got a little insecure and that is the last thing that I want to feel. I don't want to feel threatened by any outsiders. Do you feel that there are some boundaries or compromises that we can make to make each other feel secure. I want to respect your privacy, but I also want to feel that there are not threats that can affect us."
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