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Customer: My bf is American. We met in 2014. He moved to be with my in Australia. We lived together for 7 months and then he just left me. Saying he had been miserable and felt I never loved him and that I was always waiting for someone better to come along. This is so not true. I was so madly in love with him. Everyone could see that. Anyway, it took me a few months but I chose to forgive him. We've been seeing each other since January this year. So almost 5 months. He had to return to America as his visa expired. 2 days before he had to leave, he said he couldn't bare to be apart from me and that he was madly in love with me. He asked me to be his gf and gave me a promise ring. The last 3 weeks we've been doing long distance and it's been amazing. We're so in love. He's been his previous loving amazing self. Even more loving than the past 5 months. Says he was thinking about marriage next year with me. But then I was told by a friend, that he friend slept with him just 4 days before he asked me to be his gf. When I confronted him, he confessed but showed remorse and wants to do anything he can to fix this and keep me. I am so confused. I am deeply hurt and I don't know what to do. He has hurt me twice very deeply and I don't know if I can ever trust him again
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Customer: Yes. Before he left me in October I had just found out I was pregnant to him. I was so happy and so deeply hurt at the same time. I carried to 3 months and then miscarried. I feel my broken heart was the main cause. I told him this only a little while ago and he says since finding out I was madly in love with him and that I was pregnant, he says he wants all of that again and he will do whatever it takes to have a future with me. I'm worried this is all talk
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Submitted: 1 year ago.
Category: Relationship
Expert:  Dr. ARUN PHOPHALIA replied 1 year ago.


I am Dr. Arun and will be helping you today.

I am sorry that your question was unanswered for long.

Let me at the outset be honest (and perhaps blunt too). With your description; there seems to slight difference between his deeds and what he conveys to you. In a relationship commitment for each other is the biggest thing and with a long distance relationship this is not easy to maintain. So while he has been excellent to you; some sort of financial security should be asked by you for yourself and the baby. If he is able to take the financial responsibility; go ahead with the marriage as that would be a test for his long term commitment towards you.

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Expert:  Dr. ARUN PHOPHALIA replied 1 year ago.

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