Often the most effective way to hurt someone is financially, this appears to be a situation when your husband engaged in vengeful behavior (taking your money) because he knew this would hurt you, although he was making more money. It has been my experience working with couples that staying in a marriage for reasons other than love, never works. Keep in mind children learn how to give an accept love by watching those around them, specifically parents. One of the things you want to teach and model to children (even adult children) is happiness and satisfaction with one's life. Resentment and dissatisfaction can be contagious and you do not want your children (grown children as well) to think this is the type of situation that occurs within all families, or this is what "love" looks like. As you no longer love or are attracted to your husband the process of divorce should be easier to navigate.