I am so sad to hear of this because I don't hear anything mediocre about you...I hear a wonderful and loving woman whom is content in her life, her work and her love. why does that make you less or not driven? In my book it doesn't and his internal needs for himself may look different than yours but yours are no less than his, just different. I don't think finding a hobby to satisfy him will work in the long run because it seems like you might always fall short in his eyes. You may not have the best fit with each other in the long run..only time can tell, but right now, I am more desirous of you feeling okay with all that you are right now and not letting another create bad feelings in yourself. If he is reaching out to another to fill this space in him then that is more information for you about your fit. I know you love him but his requirements for you seem a bit over the top and I see that pressure only getting worse over time.
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