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Hello and thank you for using JustAnswer. I can definitely understand how frustrating this can be for you from what you described. While it definitely appears that you want a committed relationship, she is less inclined for whatever reason. You two have only been back together for a short time, so it may be in your best interest to continue to be patient with her and see where things lead. She already is not savvy to commitments and will shy away from them, but as an objective observer you two have only been back together for a short period of time. Regardless of your history together, this is considered a fresh start to your relationship so an ultimatum at this time probably would be too soon. Now if she still is not going to be exclusive with you by at least the end of the month or into May, than you should press harder for it and then state if she will not commit to you than it may be best for you both to take a break and date other people. Waiting for another 1-2 months is reasonable given that you both just recently reconciled and if it does not work out than you would only have had "wasted" 1-2 months time. So this may be a good compromise for her to get more open to the idea of being exclusive or a commitment and for you having a reasonable time line for waiting or moving forward without her.
That is definitely an issue with her, not with you. I cannot tell you exactly why she has commitment issues because that would involve talking to her directly and getting to know her personal history, but the fact that she is shying away from an official commitment is definitely on her, not on you
I hope this helps to provide you some guidance on this issue. Please let me know if you have any other questions or concerns as I would be happy to continue assisting you regarding this issue.
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