I keep being robbed of my response to your response! I wrote that I would telephone with you if you accepted my offer of service. I said your man seems to be pretty kind in his opinion about not wanting a baby. Since you apparently haven't accepted my agreement to telephone. I'll suggest that you tell him YOU WILL BE RESPONSIBLE FOR THE BABY's FIRST 5 YEARS before schooling begins. It's also clear to me that you're perhaps more anxious about moving in with him than some women your age might be, because you may have been somewhat restricted and by overly possessive parents for around 20 years longer than such parental control would normally be exercised. So you're bound to have an unusually hard time breaking away from them. BUT WHAT YOU'RE DOING IS EXTREMELY COURAGEOUS AND VITALLY IMPORTANT for your own chances to lead a full life with more of the challenges and growth experiences that the mainstream of most people get to face. I've got to go vote and do several errands now. So I'll check in again later. I don't know why this is a new question. But I'm doing my best to help you, given that I also have a disabled wife and disabled daughter to take care of.