Sorry to hear this. It sounds as if he has done as he pleases when he likes without much regard to your feelings. No need to really see the correspondence because you know it could be laden with inappropriate things..if he hasn't acted this way in the past, it might be different but his past and his refusal now may say otherwise. I am sorry he is treating you in this way. After your procedure, I would sit and talk with him about what he desires in the marriage going forward...let him know how you love and care for him and want to be with him, but you also desire to be respected and valued. Then it is up to him to decide how he will behave in the marriage.
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