Hi Mark, I am sorry to hear that things have deteriorated to this point. I think you both need to take a step back, not engage when things feel crazy and when things feel calmer sit with each other and talk about the love you have for one another, what you both want from the marriage and then work toward that. If you both want the marriage but are acting out to hurt the other, you must address this. The most effective way to figure it all out is to get into marital counseling where all issues can be addressed in a safe and supportive environment. Right now you are both in reactive states and we need to get you back to a calm state and address all of the issues with openness and honesty.
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