This is not uncommon...as we sleep our minds are active and often with sexual feelings and also desires. This in no way means anything less about you or that he is not attracted to you. I understand you initiate intimacy most of the time, but you also mention you have an active sex life, so although I can hear you taking it all personally, I am hoping you can feel calmer and know that this is normal and not a slight to you. If it interfered with your intimacy then I would suggest getting into some counseling, but unless I am mistakes, other than you initiating, I don't hear that it has been detrimental to the relationship. Yes, I hear that you are hurt by it, but it is normal for this to happen.
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