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I pushed my girlfriend = away so she was feeling overwhelmed

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I pushed my girlfriend = away so she was feeling overwhelmed over stressed with abusive ex trying to intimidate her, being crazy, kids, other emotional stuff which with my general over expressiveness has caused her to kind of push me away.
I really love her but I fear pushing her away..she is teatering I don't want to lose her
I love her so much
I overwhelmed with my expressiveness that still talks to me
So last week in bed i tell her I want to spend the rest of my life with her once we both get past our struggles with bad exes court cases etc..
She reacted poorly..then we made love things seemed ok when I left then she stopped communicaing
I made another stupid mistake when i asked to talk and she said just go to bed im out with friends i talk about this tomorrow.
I went on facebook messenger sent "please just give me five minutes...
She blocked me completely from facebook.
We talked for about 15 minutes the following night.. I asked her what happened,,she replied I don't know I think you love me more than I love you. but never broke up with me. Then I asked her if she found me attractive still, enjoyed being with me, sex was good, cared about me, loved . she answered yes to all of those things but didn't say much else had a brief text exchange saturday but we have not communicated since.
I said said id give her some space but how long should I wait and how can I get her back into a positive frame of mind. i decided I'd wait for her to reach out to me thinking maybe she'd miss me but its been 3 -4 day and nothing. I dont want to push her away more she was already overwhelmed and stupid me asks her to marry me...(we had a few too many drinks too when I said it). How do I rebuild what was a great relationship of about 4 months ..
I feel like it she is overwhelmed I'm the easiest thing to let go...kids are her life, work is work , crazy ex divorce shit no control over.
Submitted: 12 months ago.
Category: Relationship
Expert:  Jen Helant replied 12 months ago.

Hi, Sorry for all that has happened. Do you have a specific question I can help you with?

Customer: replied 12 months ago.
how long should i give her and do you have a specific plan for reconnecting with her.
Customer: replied 12 months ago.
but how long should I wait and how can I get her back into a positive frame of mind
Customer: replied 11 months ago.
im still waiting for answer. how long does it usually take or a reply