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I agree with you that something isn't right. Engagement time is a happy time and a time when most couples can't get enough of one another. 4 months without any intimacy is a red flag and wondering why now she isn't feeling comfortable around you and her body. Do I know for sure she is seeing someone else? I do not, but her behavior seems a bit secretive. I would suggest that in a quiet moment you let her know how you love and care for her and only want the best for both of you and if things have changed that you an handle it as long as you are both being open and communicative with one another. You gut is telling you something is off, so keep checking in with her and engaging in this larger discussion.
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It sounds to me Todd, that she is trying to leave the relationship and does not know how to come and speak with you directly.
I would go to her without accusations but rather a where are we and what do we want conversation. It doesn't seem like you can both move forward together until a deeper conversation takes place.
What do you want to do now about it all?
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