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Hello and thank you for using JustAnswer. I am very sorry that your inlaws treat you and your husband in this manner, I can understand how distressing this can be for you. May I ask, what is your specific question that you would like an answer to in regards ***** ***** situation?
I thought you were saying that they treat your husband like a "baby" in a negative way. So what is your question that you would like an answer to in regards ***** ***** situation? Are you asking why or how to get them to treat you better?
I am sorry that your in-laws treat you and your husband in such a different and unfair manner. The honest truth about it is that you cannot change how your in-laws behave as that is their choice. You only have control of your own actions and behaviors, just like they are the ones that control their actions, so when they treat you poorly, they make the conscious decision to do so. So that means they are the only ones that can choose to stop treating you poorly. You should not be expected to deal with this as you are a human being and you deserve to be treated with respect and dignity. You need to demand to your husband that your in-laws treat you properly and if they will not than they should not come around your home anymore because you do not need that grief and emotional pain that they provide. If your husband will not stand up to them than that shows he values them more than you and at this point you need to seriously consider separating from your husband because this behavior is only going to get worse as time progresses.
I am very sorry to hear that, but like I said you cannot stop their behavior and if your husband will not be more adamant to put a stop to it than there is not much else you can do. You deserve to be treated with respect like anyone else and if you are not getting that here than either couples therapy is warranted or a separation may be the key as you cannot continue with this status quo
As I stated before, there is not much else you can do besides try to go to couples therapy where a third party can try to reach your husband on how this behavior hurts you or you can try for a separation to break away from the poor behavior.
If you think you can do that, than go for it, but in most cases her behavior will eventually grind you down and then the emotional pain will hurt more in the future.
No her behavior is not normal at all. Most people have a good relationship with their in laws.
No that is not normal
Yes it is definitely her from what you described.
It is possible he just finds it easier to agree with her than to resist her. Over time of poor behavior by her, he may have just given up and just "goes with the flow."
It is her and getting distance from that behavior will be in your best interest
I recommend couples therapy for you and your husband.
No, Bipolar Disorder does not cause this behavior. It is possible she may have a personality disorder but not Bipolar Disorder
I hope this answers your questions and gives you some guidance on this issue. Please let me know if you have any questions or concerns as I am happy to assist and support you regarding this issue.
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You can definitely consider therapy as it can be a good way to vent your frustrations
Well then I think breaking off contact with them until they can treat you with respect is warranted.
I cannot tell you why as I cannot read her mind, but it does not matter why she does it because the fact of the matter she does it and that is all that matters. There is no excuse for why she behaves this way.
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I understand. Therapy can be helpful for you.
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