I'm Dr. Jackie, an interpersonal communication researcher/professor and relationship expert. And I am so sorry you are going through all of this.
First, I would like to ask a question or two in order to get more information in order to better answer you. You said that your friends and family do not like him. Why is that? How much have they interacted with him? I am asking this because usually there is something to it if friends and family don't like him. The reason is because they can see things the person in love cannot because they can be objective. So if you can fill in these blanks, I will have a better idea of the whole picture.
Second, you do not like the way he handles conflict. Well, there is only about a 1% chance of change. Unless there is a life-altering event like a near-death experience, tragedy of a loved one, etc., things won't change.
Third, what are you willing to live with? He is not going to change (without counseling), and your family and r
(sorry I am having huge computer issues) friends are not going to change their minds overnight either.l
If you can answer, I will be able to provide you a better answer!
I will send you my phone and Skype information so that you have it since it looks like you requested a phone call chat. I'm between things right now...I do have some time this evening. Monday is pretty full except from about 4:30-5:30. Tuesday is flexible. I'll also try to respond tonight on what you just wrote. :)