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Hello and thank you for your question. I can definitely understand the position you are in and how difficult this is for you. I obviously cannot tell you what to do, but if you feel that by telling this other woman of this man's affairs will benefit her in the long run and that you are not doing it as a form of vengeance against him than you should consider telling her as your information may help to protect this other woman. In terms of backlash, are you worried about what he will do or what she will do because you said that she is in your social circle although you do not know her personally, so any backlash from her would probably be limited. Also his backlash will end this casual relationship, but it was pretty much going to end now that you realize his intentions with this other woman too, so I just want to know if there is any other sources of backlash that you have not described yet that I am missing
But overall I think it would be appropriate for you to tell this woman if you want to help her and are not doing it to get back at this other man because then you would be doing this for the right reasons.
I understand the difficulty here. Like I said before the decision is of course up to you and if you feel like you would not have any guilt of withholding this information from this other woman (assuming she does not already know about this man's affairs) than you may not want to say anything. But if you feel like you will have guilt and that you want to help this other woman than may be you should consider telling her. Also you have to balance out what is more important too, your friends (at least some of your friends) and reputation or telling this woman the truth. I can see where this is more of a downside for you on an individual and selfish level because of the potential backlash, but like I said it depends on what you value more and if you think you may have any guilt or not from not telling this other woman.
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