I'm sorry no one has responded to your complicated relationship question for so long. Perhaps you can expand a little on the circumstances.
Does you wife have a 9-5 job?
How old are the children, and when are they at home?
Do you do all of the household chores, shopping, cooking, laundry, and tend to the lawn?
You mention that you are pursuing your dreams. What are they? Do you have the educational background, etc. to accomplish your dreams, or are they just fantasies?
What business have you started? How is it going? Is it growing so that it will be a real job in the near future?
Sorry for so many questions, but I need to understand what is going on in your family.
All the best,