What makes you think he is lying?
Because we just had some tension and we both knows. Initially I was thinking he might just want a fling and that is why he is not actively communicating. But then I am also thinking what if it is me being needy and therefore he backed off when he sensed me being needy?
But anyway what do you think I should respond? Please let me know soon.
If he just wanted a fling then he would have met you. Unless he is afraid that you do want more and will get attached. In that case he does not want to hurt you. I would just respond with something like....too bad your out of town I did want to see you. Oh well maybe next time. Let me know if you are ever in my town.
This will show you did want to see him, but you are fine with it. Also, now it's up to hI'm to come to your town if he wants to see you.
What kind of actions show it? The thing is we had a mixture of both: some interaction is like a date - we go out and had some conversation; some is a little fling like making out and some touches. He'd follow up the next day which is like a date but then he isn't continuing communicating much - which could either be it is not that necessary since we are long distance; or it could be not wanting to invest time if someone is just looking for a fling.
Also I think he backed off when I seems getting needy and obsessive, which is understandable. And part of it might cause him to say he will be out of town. Although I am not sure if he just want something casual which can cause him to back off as well.
Giving the fact that we didn't exchange exact travel dates(therefore there is still possibility to meet) and the neediness and possible casual play, how should I adjust the kind of response you mentioned earlier? Should I better start a new topic just to hopefully lower the tension, at least for now?
How would you feel or say if someone says things like this as an excuse?
Ps. Is it possible you could respond faster?