Thanks for helping out! Hermones are usually for women right? I was also just wondering which situation it is with guys for MOST OF THE TIME especially after only one date.
I have no idea where he stands and that is why I am wondering. Especially when it is long distance, how do you feel both can maintain the dialog or keep the conversation going? He will always respond but not always asking me questions. So I don't know if he is just dull or he is just casual.
How to get additional signs to determine what he is looking for: hookup or something more?
Excellent. Since you mentioned not to overwhelm, so how often do you think the communication should be going on in this case?
Since he will respond without necessarily asking any question, doesn't it mean he is trying to take back a little or it is just because the long distance thing so he is rather relaxed?
Since I will be traveling to places close to him in a few months, do you think I should find out if he is interested in meeting when it is getting closer to the date or now? He did mention if I am in his area let him know but now I am not going to be directly in his area. I will just be close by that requires a few hours of his travel. So do you think find out now is better or later so it leaves more space match the casual state and also make it more mystic?
"work up to more in depth type questions"
-Can you give some example questions like this?
Right now it is not like who takes initiatives. It is more of whose turn it is. So if I sent message with or without questions, he will always respond with or without questions, then it is my turn...
If the purpose of asking was simply to see how the conversation goes, then if he says he is not willing to travel, then I would have wasted all these time chatting, right?:) Ps. he already said to let him know if I am in his area. So even we don't chat at all in the next few months, I am pretty sure he will be open to meet when the time comes and I inform him so. If it is to stay more mystic and unpredictable, then that is fine I can wait later to ask.
Please let me know what you think. Thanks,
He is always responding and we did have a good date. That is all I know and nothing beyond that. He might also be polite since it is unknown whether we still have opportunity to meet or not regardless of how well that date went.
I have to see when I'd feel ready to pop that question.
What to do when you don't know how the other party thinks or are looking for? Do you have any way to find out signs that tells what he is looking for without directly asking?
No I haven't. Seems too quick to ask. Yeah he will respond in time but not checking in on my daily activities or try to learn more about me. Not sure if it is because it is long distance and just one meeting.
Ps I said I miss the kiss. And he said yes it was nice and he didn't want to leave. How do you interpret this response and what should I do next?
Yes we enjoyed it. But I just don't know if the long distance thing would defeat him and he wouldn't know if we could ever meet again. Plus, if he is just seeking something casual, even there is good time, it is over and he could just be polite now. How does the situation feel to you: was it because of long distance? Or more leaning toward he is seeking something casual? Is it just sexual interest or both?
So at this stage should I go ahead ask if he is willing to travel a few hours to see me? Or wait till it gets closer to the date?
Chat every 2-3 days? Would it be too frequent to continue doing this for 3 months? Also he has asked me much questions to get to know more about me yet. What do you think? Not interested because he is seeking casual or maybe because the long distance nature again?
Hi I thought I just have some follow up questions but didn't hear from you. I could still give you the credit. Thanks,