Hello, I am Rafael. Thanks for asking your question - I'm here to support you. (Information posted here is not private or confidential but public).
I am very sorry to know about this frustrating situation.
Could you please tell me a little more abut it? Like for how long do you know each other and have been sharing this much?
This is concerning, since it is not consistent with the 24/7 texting and interest he appears to show that way
Has this been this way for this 7 months? Have you asked him to call you, have you called him?
What does he say about not calling you at all?
Then he actually told you this, that he likes you but does not want to fuel too much attachment to the point he would not feel comfortable nor fine leaving you when that much more attached to him
It's frustrating since he does literally fuel your attachment 24/7 through text messages but avoid sharing by phone
Pushing him to do this or any other thing he is unwilling to do would not help for sure
I think he could be immature since uses avoidance instead of opening up after this long, once he was the one who shared his feelings towards you and has actively engaged in the texting thing, it's like he is keeping control of how this evolves, and it is obviously working for him while not for you
because of what eh told you, he could continue to justify his passivity for weeks, months or more
Have you ever met or talked by the phone?
Do you live far away from each other?
I suggest you to be patient and understanding but not to wait for too long, since you would end feeling overwhelmingly frustrating, neglected, and unimportant. Most people in scenarios like this, once they get finally that physically close to each other, they do everything in their power to meet. Then if he wants to meet you, I do not see what'd be the problem for you to call him, and in that phone conversation you could discuss when you would be meeting.
To take initiatives consistent with what you share and want i snot only fine bit necessary. if he wants to meet you then there is no good reason to avoid talking by the phone before you meet.
You have shared with him this often for all these months, you are the most qualified to answer that question, since it depends on his personality and what he has shown you through his behaviors.
Then send him a text message telling him how excited you feel about finally having the chance to meet hmm and that you would be calling him or if he prefers wait for him to call you in order to set the sate and time of your first encounter
Sure, if you tell him it is for you to set when and how you are going to meet, I do not see anything wrong about it, by it would be proactive , consistent and not pushy since he said he wants to meet you.
Then call him without expectations and you would learn from the experience
there is nothing wrong with it, its something natural, while texting all the time could feel excessive for some people, you do enjoy it, then I do not see why talking by phone before you meet could undermine your chances. If this person is honest and truly cares about you, a phone call would not destroy that for sure, and if he changes that much because of it, it would just show you that he has not been honest,but has serious issues and very different expectations than then ones you have.
Then again, I do not see why this could undermine your situation at all. The fact he wants to meet you is very god, otherwise it would not be normal but another red flag, then please do not be passive but take initiatives and depending on his actions more than his words you would know more about him, what he thinks, feels and wants.
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Sounds good. Thanks.
Bye for now.