Hello, I am Rafael. Thanks for asking your question - I'm here to support you. (Information posted here is not private or confidential but public).
I am sorry to know about this situation
What you describe here shows you are two very different and not compatible persons at multiple levels
This person is literally treating you in ways you feel not only very uncomfortable but disrespected, not supported and I would say in hurtful ways, because of his words, emotions, physical behaviors, reactions and what he is directly telling you about his ways, alcohol use and that is is unwilling to change anything including that in case you get married, and this is very clear and concerning for sure.
So should I try to talk to him to resolve these issues?
But I am afraid that you are expecting and hoping for something that is far away from reality, since what you have described here shows a very immature, dysfunctional and abusive person who has alcohol-abuse addiction and who presents serious personality problems
I do not see this person being even willing t acknowledge all the serious personal issues he has and how they cause problems in the relationship, even less any willingness to take responsibility for his feelings, choices and actions and to commit to work on making real improvements
Does it make sense?
Yes that does make sense. I do think that he will be unwilling to make changes or take any responsibility. I think I will try to talk to him, and if I don't see any changes, I will end it before we get too attached.
I feel like if I end it now I'm just quitting, and ending it because I'm not happy anymore, and I think that would be superficial to give up.
I do totally agree and support you, since this does not look any healthy nor truly fulfilling for you. Please be very realistic, proactive and consistent taking good care of yourself for you not to suffer even more.
You have been together for a short period of time, but these issues are all very serious and alarming, then please be very careful, realistic and assertive, setting your mental and emotional health, self-respect and happiness as number one priorities here.
Remember that your first need, right and responsibility s to respect yourself, to take good care of yourself in order for you not to allow anybody to use, abuse, manipulate or neglect you, otherwise you would find your self attaching and developing "unhealthy love", because of the impact it has in your mind, heart and life.
Thank you for putting this in perspective for me.