Hi! I'll be glad to follow up on your discussion with Rafael and help you with this issue.
I can imagine how frustrating this situation must be for you. You have a loving and good relationship that is satisfying to you. You have a good life with your husband. You have stress because of financial issues. This, however, is common to most people today, no matter what country they live in. You've had medical examinations and they came back normal. This is good, but it makes the situation even more frustrating and mysterious. It is really frustrating, for sure.
Because you have already checked things out medically, the solution will have to come psychologically. However, we can't really try to find the solution with traditional psychodynamic psychotherapy. This is the type of long term therapy where you work to bring out into consciousness those things that you might not be aware of in yourself. And the unconscious masturbation would eventually emerge and be understood. But that route takes a long time and is thus expensive. And you're having financial difficulties, so this traditional solution is not really a good one for you.
I rarely recommend hypnotherapy. But here I'm going to. Because there is no other symptom of a life problem that is debilitating going on. Please note I am talking about only hypnotherapy, which is a recognized form of psychotherapy used by psychologists and psychotherapists. So I'm not talking about people who put in ads in newspapers for hypnosis. Maybe those are useful or maybe not, I can't say. But a psychologist trained in hypnotherapy is a real licensed therapist. Even so, here's the important statement about hypnotherapy: hypnotherapy can help with a specific problem and that's why I'm thinking of it. HOWEVER, there are good and honest hypnotherapists and there are other types. Your only way of assessing is two ways: first, make sure he or she is a licensed psychologist or psychotherapist. Don't let anyone tell you they are a licensed hypnotherapist. There is no licensure in most states in the US, for example, that I know of. It's all a "self-licensing" which is not good enough. So you want to know his or her license number as a psychologist and call the appropriate licensing board to make sure there have been no complaints filed. Please do not skip this step.
I don't know what the licensing agency is in South Africa, so this will be an important thing for you to find out so that you can choose the hypnotherapist wisely. However, I think this right now is your best solution because hypnotherapy typically does not take very many sessions. Thus, the financial burden should not be as great on you as traditional therapy. And the results should be quicker since you don't have other life problems going on.
Okay, I wish you the very best!
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