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First, let me say I can imagine how distressing and even scary this situation must be for you. I am so glad that you are talking about counseling for him.
This is very important. Because I wish I could tell you that this will not happen again. But I'm afraid that the research is rather conclusive that this is not the case. When a man has a history of anger and acting out with violence, this is what is the classic abusive relationship. That the anger erupts again is what you're now experiencing. And this is why there are women's support groups, shelters, and legal organizations: because anger and abusive behavior is not a one time occurrence. That's unfortunate but it's what we've learned over the decades now is the reality.
The hardest part is that it's not a constant thing. Abusive husbands erupt with anger every so often, then there's a period of calm where they are very reassuring that it won't happen again. Let me link for you a picture of what is called the Cycle of Abuse. I want you to look at it and to print it out and talk about it with your husband so he can make an appointment with a therapist to discuss the cycle and the escalation of abuse you are experiencing.
This is the most important step you can take in helping yourself and for him to help himself.
Okay, I wish you the very best!
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