ELLIOTTI asked you a question yesterday at 11:52 AM, and you responded at 12:50 AM. I have a follow up question, but it was too long to put in the "response" area of my previous question. Thanks so much for your help!Response:------------------------------------------------------------Thanks so much for your very honest answer. You may have figured this already, but the girl I was referring to is me. Sometimes it's easier to ask an opinion from a 3rd person stance, just to step back and allow a little more objectivity on my part. I do have a couple of questions. After the sexual assault, I very quickly developed a trauma bond to this guy. Perhaps that does not sound right, but that's what I would call it. About 5 years ago, I was in an abusive relationship, and I definitely had that bond with that guy. It's that highly addictive feeling that you NEED the other person. I pursued hanging out with that guy more, even though I knew logically that I was setting myself up for trouble. I also started to feel like I loved him just a couple days after the assault.As far as the sex, I guess I am horrified that I suggested and agreed to it. I would like to say that he had some fault in it too, I think to relieve the feeling of "I could've prevented this from happening." Logically, he couldn't have known about the medication or the trauma bond. Part of me wants to say that he should have known that something was wrong when all the sudden I suggested we have sex, after saying for quite some time that I didn't want to, and very shortly after he assaulted me. I'm not in contact with this guy anymore, so, logically, it shouldn't matter. I've been told that I need to just let go. It just hurts a lot. I felt like a lot was taken from me in the past abusive relationship, and I feel like a lot was taken from me with this guy. Perhaps I am clinging to blaming others so much because I was blamed a lot for so many things in the past. I know it's not right. I can't just go through life not taking responsibility.