Hi sorry for the delay. something seems wrong I cant reply u.
I was supposed to visit my bf next week. not his mum.
but his mum has been hospitalised on Friday. so he had to fly. I tried text him 3 times on Friday and reminded him to update me when he was flying. there was not response. then sat I sent again. and an email no reply.
I was wondering could he be very stressed? previously that was what happened too in February when his dad passed away and he flew to Greece. Though he did say he will try text me this time round in Greece, but it was with a disclaimer "if I can". WHY ?
I am not too sure if he has internet access. his mum stays alone. in a a village.
My bf was supposed to go back mid November after his younger son final year exam. however, now he had to fly. he made arrangments with his ex wife to look after the younger son.
my bf did say he wanted to be there for 10 weeks and perhaps look for a job there while looking after his mum that time when he wanted fly in mid Nov. I asked about us. he said same. meaning LDR.
I sent 2 emails asking him future plans for us. there wasn't a reply. In fact last Thurs, I sent him again... just before his mum was hospitalised.
My bf keeps things to himself. Even his best friend didn't know his dad passed away. Today I sent a causal email to his best friend. just to inform him my bf is back with his mum.
I dare not send him another text or even worst tell him to respond by certain time. Would I been seen as not understanding?
I don't know. Yet like u say, even before his mum was hospitalised how could he plan to go there for weeks without plans for us? he has been stressed too cause his mum is very sick and is all alone in a village in Greece.
I am lost. should I text him? I really love him.. and I don't even know if I should change my flight next week. I am quite sure he may not be back in his country.
Also in February, when his dad passed away, I kept texting him , he was mad at me, saying I did not give him space.
We broke up..
then march we reconciled. since then we have been very close. until recently I got upset when I realised he planned to go Greece for god knows how long... without sparing a thought for me.
I dare not ask cause I am afraid to be hurt... by his answer... to end it..
I am very unhappy now
Now I am so confused even to the extent thinking are we still a couple.
that's what I think. if call is too expensive, he could always send me a text.
I really don't feel loved at all or important to him., but that was exactly what happened in February too when his dad passed away. he went missing in action for 2-3 weeks in Greece. not any form of contact till I was seen as pestering him then he replied.
I thought of taking your advice and text him now.
Could u advise me how should I text him so that I am seen not as an irritant and not understanding?
thank you. but
would it be seen as coming on too strongly asking him about where I stand in relationship? especially his mum in such situation?
You seemed right..
I guess I have been thinking too much for him...
I will text him now.
Thank you so much
wish me luck!:-)