Hello, I am Rafael. Thanks for asking your question - I'm here to support you. (Information posted here is not private or confidential but public).
I am sorry but your story clearly shows how this person is using and abusing you for financial and material benefits.
ok so what do you think?
Unhappily, this is not an uncommon scenario at all, and most times people presenting this pattern of behavior look for people who happen to long for emotional attachment, affection and fulfillment they do not get through their regular/formal relationships.
dont you think that if you are in a relationship and it is true then when one goes out of town that person would call a couple of times and when the person that did not go out of town says that they miss the other person then that person that is out of town would respond by saying I miss you too.
Many times the most vulnerable people are those who suffer of depression, anxiety or codependency, since allow this type of unhealthy relationships.
Absolutely, that's what would be considered normal behaviors, a reciprocal affectionate and caring relationship.
Otherwise it shows lack of caring and neglect.
Does it make sense?
WHAT DO you reconmend me to do. I care about this girl but I want to make sure i am not being used. how do i approch her on this. i said to her that i thought she should seek help on not wanting to show affection and she said she does not care to dig and find out why? she should not have to change and that i need to love her for who she is.