We have met a marriage therapist every week for the last 6 weeks
Marriage Therapist said that since we have irreconcilable differences we should prepare for a divorce
Now i have two issues:
(1) My wife says she loves me a lot. However her behavior does not show this. What questions can she ask herself to understand that her feeling for me are not love (intimacy, passion etc)
(2) My wife cannot look at a life without me. Even though she is 33 and well employed, there seems to be a fear in her. What resources can i point her to for her to understand that there is life for single people in America.
(3) My wife has had a troubled childhood. Her parents fought a lot with each other in front of the kids. Her dad used to lock himself up in his room to "punish" the family and my wife used to sit outside his room with food. She was sexually molested by her teacher from age 8 to age 14. My wife says that she is beyond all this. However IMO it is almost impossible to be beyond all this without a good professional help. My wife is refusing to see a psychologist. Are there are resources/questions i can give her for her to realize that she is still traumatized by her childhood.
She can be helped. I know how difficult this is for you and you may not be able to endure the process if she decides to undergo it. You also have needs.
If you get the books you will learn more and thus have more focus and direction as to your next moves.
I wish you courage and strength.