Hello, I am Rafael. Thanks for asking your question - I'm here to support you. (Information posted here is not private or confidential but public).
I am very sorry to know about this serious and painful situation.
what should I do
I do nor see another healthy and assertive option but to immediately confront your husband's behavior
should I call the lady and then block the phone number
Are there message of romantic or sexual nature?
I don't know I just see the text messages come through our phone bill with the two numbers messaging back and forth each day and sometimes in the middle of the night
Anything you could do to protect yourself could be absolutely fine and acceptable, but please let him choose what he wants to do about it, he is the only one who should block his own account from her messages and take full responsibility for his choices and actions
This is absolutely not related to his job , right?
He wants the messages to come in.
I would be the jealous wife and villain if I did anything
He is probably, maybe wondering when I will ask him about this
Sorry but if these messages are not about his job but from an affair, it would be unacceptable for him to expect you to passively behold his affair.
If you stay silent, you would be codependently enabling further abuse
You are correct. I may take some action. What if he says she is just a friend
it is about self-respect, self -love ad what is acceptable or not in a marriage
I got my answer thanks a million, you are great
How could an adult in his five senses use such an excuse in a scenario like this, that would be very abusive and manipulative, insulting your intelligence, don't you think so?
You're very welocme
please take gentle care and consistent action with adequate support.