I appreciate your answer, however, I would like more of your feelings around what could he be thinking after 3 years of dating. Is it simply that I have avoided bringing it up or is this who he is? I guess one way to find out is to bring it to light. As for not inviting me to his home and being pretty reticent about a possible visit, I don't know what to make of it. Again, I need to ask. Any other incites you can shed on this would be appreciated. The fact that I am more financially set then he is makes me feel 'greedy' asking that he pay my way, and yet, I am resentful. Does that make sense?