I'm not quite sure if you got my other reply. I guess my next question would be... How do i talk to him? My boyfriend is battling a mental illness himself; depression. And there is a bit of a drinking problem. Talking to him in person causes him to shut off and ignore me, only for him to turn around and pretend nothing has happened.
I'm sorry I did not get the original reply. Sometimes the system loses replies. I apologize for the inconvenience. It is not good that talking to your boyfriend causes him to shut off and ignore you. If he reacts to you expresses your needs by shutting off, you might need some help with talking to him. Consider talking to a therapist together. The therapist can help balance your needs with your boyfriend's issues so you can both communicate with each other. You might also want to try other methods of talking to him. Write him an email or letter. Or ask someone you both trust to help you talk to him about this issue. It may be that changing how you express your needs gets him to listen rather than shut down. While you cannot force him to listen, you can try different methods to see if it helps.