Thank you so much, Dr. Paige. You are right in that it is very stressful, and I have some very difficult days filled with sadness, but I will continue to be patient and do as you recommend. 2 Final questions: Is it O.K. if he does date from time to time (I know there is no one serious but I did see him driving with a woman one day!), will I look like a fool accepting this and still just being there as a friend? And finally, if he's doing this, will he even want to do a casual movie or something with me, or is that too much pressure?! Thank you!
Thanks again. And the mistakes I made were that I did not give him enough attention and nurture that he deserved, as a human being. I got into a major rut after I had kids - 2 very strong-willed and at times quite difficult girls. So, my FINAL question: I last brought up the counseling thing last weekend (during our emotional meeting). He has the names of the counselors I found (all very pro-marriage), but he hasn't gotten back to me. If I ask him to go again, after a couple of weeks, is that pushing him too much, too soon? Or should I just wait longer? You mentioned that he needs things to play out, as he's going through his own issues. My fear about counseling is that he will feel forced to do things he doesn't want to do and rebel, so to speak. I've read horrible things that counseling seldom works and even does further damage (although it worked for my parents who nearly divorced, but made it through and have been married for over 50 years). Thanks.